Perish Together

Couple of weeks ago a Chinese article caught my attention.  It told a story of a young lady who was abducted and sold to a farmer in a very remote village.  She was forced to marry the man who bought her from the trafficker.  She first fought but lost, she was locked, beaten and raped.  She finally gave up the effort to escape from the village and started finding a way to survive with her “husband”.  After she noticed there was no schools in that village she used her limited education to help local poor kids read and write.

Many years later somehow her experience leaked out of the isolated region to social media, she was recognized and awarded due to her selfless contributions to the local education.  She immediately turned into a “celebrity” and her story reached wide and far.

By then she should be able to regain her freedom with the help of legal authority.  Instead she chose to avoid any further investigations on her abduction case since she didn’t want her “in – laws” and her “husband” get into trouble.

It seems that those darkness, the hurts both emotionally and physically, those shames from long time imprisonment had been suddenly forgotten or forgiven.  Had those tragic past made her completely obedient to those evil beings surrounding her, or had she ignited some sort of “bonding” with the abducting family, or had she already realized that the value of her own life settled with what she was having?  I don’t know answers except being occupied by sadness and depression.

The lady in this story might be a “luckier” one compared with many kidnapped / abducted young females in China, at least she has, in some degrees, struggled out of her miserable situation and accomplished something meaningful.

Her story reminded me of a documentary film I watched a while ago, Blind Mountain (盲山), which described the life of another young Chinese lady who was kidnapped after graduating from a college.  Then for 7,000 yuan (~ $1,000) she was sold to a penniless family in a village surrounded by mountains.


At the beginning she was wishing that other villagers might have some mercies on her, but soon she found that arranged marriage using the women purchased from traffickers was very acceptable, and became a local tradition.  This tradition created her worst nightmare, each time she tried to run away, the villagers helped to track her down and bring her back to her “family” and chained her in a small room.  Since most wives in the village were brought there in the same way, so their husbands were afraid that her escape might catch the attention of the legal authorities from outside.

Her “mother – in – law” shared “advices” that every woman got married eventually, it was the same with whomever available.  Her “father – in – law” encouraged and assisted his son rape her.  Afterwards there was another abducted woman with four kids came to her and told her that it was impossible to get help from anybody around, including those so called “leaders”, since her situation belonged to circle of inner – family issues, not violated any local laws.

Then she obeyed.

My heart was ached when I saw her cutting her hair short, remaining silence while her “husband” was hollering, beating or raping her.  She worked as a local farmer woman.  Once a while she helped local school by working as a substitute teacher.  It looked as if she had given up the effort to seek freedom, but actually she was looking for the opportunities.

The mountains blocked her way to escape far, she was brought back, threatened, beaten and chained again and again.

Finally her father located the village and led police officers to save her.  Their effort was interrupted, blocked by local villagers, and her father was brutally assaulted.  Watching blood coming down from her father’s face, the young lady, burned by the anger accumulated inside for a very long time, grabbed a knife from the kitchen and stabbed her “husband” to death.

She destroyed that farmer’s family by killing their only son, but at the same time a murder charge was awaiting her.

It was perish together!

I felt deeply sorry for that young lady who was kidnapped just after college, and since then her dreams and expectations were ruined.  But I didn’t feel any sympathy for the family of her “husband” and truly wished that the loss of their son’s life would teach them some lessons.  I especially felt angry and shameful on those ignorance human beings isolated by the mountains as well as the traditions they formed, I considered they were the true sources of the tragedy.

It shouldn’t have been overly done even if the lady burnt entire village down to the ground!

8 thoughts on “Perish Together

  1. Wowl Just horrifying. Such atrocities are hard to know about and take in. Where are those “owners/husbands and their families’ ” souls?


  2. HI Yan, this is such an awful story, and so unfortunately, not that uncommon. I remember seeing a film documenatary a few years about about a similiar case, a true story acted out for themovie. the abducted woman escaped, then walked thousands of miles back to beijing, where her family refused to accept her. the kidnappers found her out and kidnapped her again.

    its unconsciably awful. also, due to the one-child policy and the heavy balance of men compared to females, there is a huge population of men unable to find wives, so the traffic in women has become worse. a lot of women from rural vietnam are stolen and taken off the border and sold.

    the attitude of those remote villages is apalling, and they seem to be a law unto themselves.

    its hard to know where to begin to attempt to change such horrifying circumstances. thanks for posting about this important issue.


      1. The real problem with this story is it is not an isolated one – it happens often in rural isolated areas and real extremes of physical violence are used against the women who have been kidneapped. Due to the overabundance of en due to the one child policy and rural families favouring boys, this kind of trafficing in women is becoming more common, I believe.

        its such an awful thing because really, we are all pretty powerless – what can anyone do to help? esp in an environment where those who try and bring the plight of women into the open are jailed, as in the recent case of the ‘feminist five’.

        sometimes it really feels like society is going backwards. its hard to know what is more appalling – imagine the poor woman seeing her father, who had come to rescue her, being beaten by the unruly mob that imprisoned her.

        what to do? this is one scenario where i really have no answers. and not just rural women get stolen, but like in the case you talked about, college graduates. so sickening.


  3. Thank you for bringing this issue into light, I would never have known such terrible kidnapping exists if I hadn’t read this.

    Why would a group of human beings ruined the lifes of these poor girls who have hopes for their own future. As a woman I feel pained and angry too!

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  4. It certainly is becoming more and more of a problem with the one child policy and male outweighing female, however this actrocity cannot be allowed to continue!

    Being female stories like this really touched me. I am thankful that I am safe and happy, yet I cannot help but feel guilty for being safe and happy… what is there to do to help?

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